Trust is belief. It is the idea that we can rely on someone. Trust is having confidence that those people we rely on will be there when we need them most, and that they will try their best to not disappoint us. It is also knowing that despite any disappointments that come our way, we can believe and rely on our ourselves to get through it. Our ability to trust fundamentally influences how we view ourselves, others, and the world around us.
Many people have difficult, unhealthy, or toxic parental relationships. For a variety of reasons, including cultural beliefs, personal values, or societal pressure, you may think that you have no choice but to deal with it, even if that means you suffer. You may feel guilty for not doing more for them or obligated to do whatever your parent asks of you. Take a moment to reflect on what your parent does for you now that you’re an adult. So many of us are raised to believe that we have to obey our parents without question. But as we reach adulthood, the relationship needs to be more balanced so you can protect and grow your own emotional wellness.
There’s still a lot of stigma and confusion surrounding mental health care. If you are apprehensive about therapy, you are not alone. Men, particularly men of color and Black men, have traditionally been taught to be strong, or that showing your emotions makes you weak (read more on “Why Emotional Vulnerability is a Sign of Strength”). Or you may be thinking that therapy is about telling you there’s something wrong with you and you need to change. But it’s neither of those things. Therapy is just a conversation.
It’s so common for people to have a string of relationships that don’t last. There’s a disconnect between you and your partner, even in the beginning when fostering the relationship, it gets cut short because of that disconnect. What’s going on? Is it that you’re not compatible or are needs not being met?
For many, talking about feelings, or being emotional, can be as taboo as expressing our thoughts on religion or politics. Some would say it is best to not to talk about them because doing this could make people feel uncomfortable. Best not to put people off by talking about what is going on inside of us.
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